One of the biggest lessons I am working to impart on the girls during the summer (because they are getting older and they are beginning to be confronted with it) is to always be aware that “haters”/critics and fans will always be in the room.
“LEARN TO LEARN” is the last thought I finish my speeches when I’ve done my Career Day presentations.
This is the reason I do so many things with my daughters (most of which are free). I want them to feel like they can learn anything. It’s usually all skill based and just requires time and commitment.
How and why do I do so many things?
Click play and hear me talk a bit about why I do why I do. Why is this so important to me.
You know… I’m almost 11.
Yes. I know. :-/
Well. I still love you.
I don’t hate you.
That’s great. Love hearing you don’t hate me.
And I’m almost a teenager right?
Just about. :-/
Your friends are all wrong. I will always love you even when I’m a teenager. They don’t know what they’re talking about
You’re absolutely right baby. They have no clue who we are.
It’s all the same. Really. I shit you not.
Some may argue with some of the specifics and they would have a marvelous time doing so with themselves.
When I was in management (15 years or so) I couldn’t help but feel like I was parenting on some scale.
Do this. Don’t do that.
Oh, wait! Now you need to go into the corner.
Clean up after yourself. Clean up after the customers.
Wear your uniform. Tuck your shirt in.
Smile. Greet the customer. Be friendly.
Then I became a parent and thought to myself: wow, this feels a lot like management.
Throw the trash away.
Brush your teeth. Smile.
Shake hands. Make eye contact.
So my experience in management really gave me head start on how to be an effective parent. Although I’ve been doing a ton of OJT (on the job training) as well.
My leadership training and knowledge reminds me to make every effort to allow my girls to think for themselves and ask the right questions.
“Leaders don’t have all the right answers. Leaders have all the right questions”
And the add to this the ABSOLUTE need to model the behavior I would like my daughters to emulate.
Respect. Honor. Integrity. Transparency. Care. Love. Cleanliness.
This is where I think the magic happens.
When as a manager/parent you tell them to do something because it’s the right thing to do.
And a leader you also demonstrate it through your actions and behaviors. If rapport is already there… then they will do anything you request of them.
Every week we discuss many things.
Until recently most are black and white. Right and wrong. Up and down.
One of the biggest lessons lessons which was covered this week was that of karma. Energy. It’s one of the topics I am passionate about
Anastacia did not want to let her older sister borrow her new boots. Fe asked. Ana declined for no particular reason even though she was not wearing them.
Fe’s feelings were hurt and when she told me about the situation. She asked kindly and waited until Ana wasn’t wearing them.
Truthfully Ana had the right and privilege to say no. They are hers.
Yet as I told the both of them the problem with this is that it sets in motion a bad energy.
Fe will remember this slight. They are sisters so these little scenarios will repeat themselves over and over.
And Ana will one day real soon need something that Fe has control over and will be declined and wonder why.
I tried to use this small instance to illustrate karma and energy on a grander scale. It’s something I am passionate about and aware of at all times.
Put good into the world and you will good back.
Positively seldom comes out out negativity. It does. But not easily.
I welcome them to look at my life and analyze how I am regularly blessed with opportunities and friendships that are nothing short of astonishing.
I think they got it. If not, we will cover it again and again.
They’re getting older and the subject we cover are getting deeper and deeper.
It’s my goal to have their young minds prepared for some of the most complicated issues they will confront with a sense of understanding and awareness.
“Daddy told me this would happen and he mentioned this possible solutions”
I’ve begun to position the lessons and knowledge I Share as if I was some type of “fortune teller”.
“These things will happen. Just wait for it”
This way the lessons I share with them don’t just come off as daddy just being old and cranky.
The lessons are universal. Change the music and decade and they are repeated over and over.